Everything I’ve learned of unconditional love I learned from loving my son, through his addiction.
When you love unconditionally you learn to listen with your heart, not your ears. You hear the things being said in fear or anger differently that way. You learn that when your being pushed away is when you know they need you most to stay.
You learn to accept people just the way they are. Where they are, and in whatever their condition. You see their humanity and not their flaws. That’s why you just love them. There is no “because”.
Your love won’t always save someone. I learned this with the death of my son. But if there is one thing of which I have no regrets it is of how much I loved him and the way he taught me to love.
People would encourage me to stop trying, that he had to do this on his own. “Try tough love”, they’d say. Well, tough love was harder on me than him. Tough was alienating. It was cold. How could I ever let him think he had nowhere to go? So, I loved him with actions no matter what we faced.
We are all under the influence of something. Whether it be hurt, pain or fear. We’re under the influence of our past mistakes or worry of what could go wrong. Yet, we all need this one thing. Unconditional love.
Love does not fail
4 Love is patient, love is kind, it is not envious. Love does not brag, it is not puffed up. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-serving, it is not easily angered or resentful.